Household Chores: WHO does WHAT?
Being that it is 2013,
and the days of women doing most (if not all) of the chores are LONG gone,
my husband and I share all of the household responsibilities.
Granted, when I first met Scott, he did not know a washer from a dryer,
couldn't fold clothes for the life of him,
never had washed a dish in his life,
& his idea of a home cooked meal was
Bagel Bites in the oven microwave.
I must say,
he is WAY more domesticated now!
Growing up, my Dad didn't do laundry or dishes,
it was just something that my Mom did.
Mom, on the other hand, would have my Dad do the "outside" chores,
except for working in her garden.
This seemed to work for them,
they both had very stereotypical duties as male & female.
This wouldn't work for me. I love getting help from Scott.
In fact, I sometimes look forward to doing chores with him.
We make chores fun.
Since our apartment has no dishwasher,
we need to wash ALL of our dishes by hand.
Sure, it's a huge drawback to apartment living,
but not when you turn your kitchen into a Karaoke Bar
equipped with wine & music!
& Sure, folding laundry can sometimes be a drag-
but not when you fold laundry with your husband.
We've had some of our most in depth conversations while folding laundry!
Chores can be an annoying & tedious part of life if you have a bad attitude about them.
But really, life is about your attitude.
Life is what you make of it.
So go ahead, I dare you,
try to have fun with a chore.
Turn dusting into a dance party,
turn your kitchen into a Karaoke Bar,
it makes the chores get done faster,
and it's tons more fun!
=)
We have a fairly stereotypical division of labor in our house, but that's because I hate doing a lot of the "manly" chores! lol. So my husband does all the outside lawn care/snow removal etc. but I have no desire to upkeep a 1+ acre lot! He also does all the garbage and cleans all the bathrooms (yuck!) and he's in charge of cleaning out our fridge periodically haha. I save all my preferred chores for myself--dusting and vacuuming and laundry. I will say though that I have a fear of dirty dishes, so whenever our dishwasher isn't working he's in charge of those too :-)
ReplyDeleteThat's great he helps out so much! As far as the house chores go we have a relationship much like your mom and dads. I'm sure it would be different if I worked.. I would totally make him pick up his slack. He works SO hard though and I would feel awful making him do dishes or laundry. I have to say..I'm not a cook, he does most of that around here so I guess he does do his part and when I'm watching TV or something, he'll bring me a drink..and he's the handy man. When something needs done it's "Babe, do you think you could...?" LOL it works for us.
ReplyDeleteI love that he helps out so much! I wish I could get my husband to do more around the house without having to bribe him ;-) Good for you for teaching him!!
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We definitely try and split up our chores as much as possible. My mom and dad had a relationship like your parents and after time it wore on them (not that this would be the case for all couples). So, Jeremie and I try and split things up evenly or help each other out as much as possible. It does make chores more fun when you do them together or at the very least, it makes it a lot less overwhelming!
ReplyDeleteWe definitely split the chores, but it's pretty gender-typical and it's not because either of us made it that way it just sort of happened I guess. I'm better at cooking and cleaning so it just makes more sense for me to take care of that stuff. However, he does cook for me when I'm busy or not feeling well. He takes care of the garbage and the lawn, he also vacuums, and helps out mopping/sweeping. I love my little suzy-homemaker! :)
ReplyDeleteSo true! It's weird, but I can't wait to do chores with my future husband one day :)
ReplyDeleteI wish it were that easy for us. My hubby-to-be works nightshift as an ICU RN, so most of the household responsibility lands one me. I try not to complain because he does work a lot to give me and our daughter everything we want, but it's so frustrating sometimes. I wake up, get Ava fed, get her to daycare, go to class till 1 and then come home and try to squeeze in whatever household chores I can get done before having dinner ready before he goes to work, then get Ava fed, bathed and in bed and stay up late doing homework. Ah. I just keep thinking that it has to get better one day.
ReplyDeleteThat's so funny, I was just thinking about this the other day! I do most of the cleaning and laundry, he does all the cooking (I really can't cook!), garbage disposal, and I know he would do the outdoor work if we had a yard! Love your chore style- definitely domesticated!
ReplyDeleteWe divide chores in our home a lot like your parents do. Since I grew up with brothers I wasn't accustomed to certain chores like taking out trash and yard work and since my husband grew up with his grandmother he wasn't accustomed to doing laundry or washing dishes...so we just matched in that way perfectly! Now that I think about it, I hate folding laundry and could use the conversation so I may try suggest this next go 'round! Oh, and I love your thoughts on attitude, it's so true!
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